Lets face it, losing weight isn’t easy at all. Weight loss failure is pretty common at least once in every adult’s life. Don’t even get me started on actually KEEPING it off. Up to 80% of individuals who have lost weight gain it all back (and sometimes more!) within five years. This is scary! I know first hand the joy of losing weight, getting healthy, looking great, feeling even better and then slowly spiraling back into misery. Been there, done that, and I will not do it again! I have failed at weight loss in the past for various different reasons and here I tackle my top four.
Reason 1: I’m fine being fat.
Yeah right. I thought I was fine being fat. No one is ever really “fine” being fat. You may convince yourself that you are but it’s all just a coping mechanism. Even if you think you are fine mentally your body may be singing a different tune. Like I have so often stated, I’ve always been overweight. There were many times I went on diets but I wasn’t dedicated or knowledgeable enough about healthy eating . I got to the point where I was content being overweight. I was very comfy buying size 18 or 20 or 22 jeans. I have always had great friends who never mentioned my weight unless it was to ask, “Hey how’s your diet going?” Being fat didn’t really hinder me. So why would I bother eating less of the foods I love and sweating out my hair at the gym? Life is good! And then along came Jordan. Jordan is my thin, athletic, rambunctious 6 year old son (or as I call him, my sun! ). He eats more than me and spends his free time running… for fun. When Jordan was about 4 years old he lifted my shirt, patted my belly and said, “Mommy, you’re fat.” He has been saying it quite often since then though he’s down to about once a week now (I laugh about this but it is so true!). Jordan isn’t being mean, he’s keeping it real. He is stating the obvious just in case I forget. My response? “I know sweetie, Mommy is trying to lose weight.” Yes Mommy is. Thank you Jordan for bringing Mommy back to reality.
Reason 2: I love food.
I love my family. They are from the south, where the food is flavorful and all veggies are cooked with smoked meat lol. If we love you, we feed you. If you are too thin, you are sick. Food is caring, food is therapy, food is joy. My mother is the best cook I know. This is a true story: whenever I eat her food, my mouth involuntarily says, “Mmmm” through the whole meal! I was raised on ribs, ham, fried chicken, pig feet, chitterlings, steak, mashed potatoes, pies, cakes and every other delicious, fat filled food you can think of. Holiday dinners always consist of 8-10 different dishes. Even when I only put a small dab of everything on my plate I still don’t have room. Second or third servings were encouraged, compliments to the chef. Food has always been a major part of my life so I have tried my best to “lighten up” my favorites. Light cookbooks are my best friend! Not only is some of the food delicious, it takes the thinking out of healthy cooking. I choose dishes with lots of color and a little spice to get that same burst of flavor I’m used to. Experimenting with recipes that I find online is amazing! I am still a southern girl at heart so yes on holidays I treat myself to a little bit of my mother’s cooking.
Reason 3: I have too much other stuff on my mind.
My life is hectic, and sometimes stressful. I barely have enough time to comb my hair let alone squeeze in workouts or worry about healthy meals. This “reason” is more of an excuse. I realized that planning and preparing a healthy meal takes no extra time. I also wrote down a detailed list of everything I did for a week and realized that there were times I could sneak in mini workouts several times a day!
Reason 4: My boyfriend likes me like this.
Lol… its true, he does. Even though I was about 30 pounds lighter when we started dating 9 years ago, I was still overweight. He is a great man and yes he accepts me for who I am, flaws and all. I have told him several times over the years that I needed to lose weight. He always says that I am fine just the way I am. Bless his heart. Me and my daughter have figured him out though. He’s a chubby chaser. He will readily admit it. He likes women with a little extra meat on their bones so it was kind of tricky to get his support. Until… the time I lost 20 pounds and we saw a big difference in the bedroom! Only 20 pounds and I was a new woman lol! Things just fit together better. I felt sexier and he noticed, big time. This was enough to get him on the support bandwagon. I received his blessing but was cautioned not to lose too much weight. I figure I can lose all the weight I want, he’s not going anywhere.